I suggest giving the person some space in which to heal. If they know that you care but plan to keep some distance, then they can give you a call when their emotions settle down. It's hard and frightening to try to fix yourself when someone is watching--I am NOT saying that you are. You sound like a fantastic partner. I'm just thinking that if they are feeling overwhelmed, any attempt to help them might seem an extra burden, at least temporarily. How lucky they would be if you were still there when the dust settled for them.