Anybody, I think ESPECIALLY those of us who are in recovery ourselves, who minimizes the risks of entering into a serious romantic relationship with an addict of any type, including those with alcohol addiction, is just kidding themself!
Nobody is saying that those of us in recovery should be sentenced to a lifetime alone. We're just saying, it's something to look at carefully. I think it's like any other disease or disability in some ways. It can handicap a person if the care isn't taken to keep it from relapsing. We have to work every day to stay in remission. Is the person doing the work?
Of course, a person who truly works it can actually be a better partner than some people who don't have addiction issues, because that person is making conscious choices to be honest, loving, and spiritual. Who wouldn't want that in a partner? There's a lot to think about with this decision. I'm glad to see someone actually thinking about the consequences of this before they jump in.
KJ