Kittycat.......wanted to offer hugs and support. It probably doesn't seem like it now, but it is a gift that he is not begging you back. As you know from living with an alcoholic for over 2 decades, the manipulation can be very seductive, and even though you feel you have the strength to withstand it, jumping back into the insanity would put you right back to where you were when you first found SR. Play the tape the whole way through. You are a strong, valuable woman, and no amount of swooning and flowers from an addict can fill that hole in your heart.......only you can do that.
Take care of you!