I can only speak for me, but worrying about my partner's health, safety AND life on a regular basis was VERY harmful for me. I told him that I don't want to stay up anymore to make sure that he is still breathing and I don't want to be scared anymore that I find him dead because he drank too much or choked to death. Going through his drinking binge every 10 days is extremely harmful I think, and it doesn't stop with the binge because for the next 10 days, you are anticipating the next one. That sounds immensely stressful, draining, and destructive for YOU (I know it was for me). :ghug3