(((Lauren))) I am so sorry to hear about your AH relapse. I can feel your disappointment and loss. Addiction is such a monster; it seems capricious and uncaring in its roaming through our lives. This is a critical turning point for your H. Perhaps setting a quick and decisive boundary on your part will jolt him into reality before his addiction gets firmly reestablished. It may help you too, to stay focused on your recovery. I think Alanon might provide helpful support for you too. Of course, we're always here for you. Please keep posting and let us know how it's going.