Originally Posted by
fed34 
Your story sounds so much like the one I have about my wife.
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She won't have anything to do with me. It breaks my heart. All I ever asked of her was to tell me "Baby, I want help. I want to quit." I told her if she were to ever say those words, people would bend over backward to help. I feel like by using "tough love", I may have lost my "true love". I beg someone to please give me something to go on. I went to al-anon and aa and I have asked for help. My life has become unmanageable, and I have no idea where to turn.
fed34 I'm sorry you feel the way you do. I can't really have any advice for you because I've never been in your situation.
All I can say is to continue going to your meetings and taking care of yourself and your family. It's wonderful that your wife is doing well in her recovery, but you can't take credit for it any more than you can blame yourself for her disease. Maybe some day she'll forgive you for doing what you
know was the right thing to do, but until then, you've got to go on with your life and focus on
your recovery.