Hey, TSH.
I hope he continues to go to meetings or finds another way. I just read the other thread you mentioned and it sounds like he's having a really hard time but doesn't want any outside help? Would he be embarrassed to do that or is he simply determined to fix this by himself? I don't know...I just hope his way of therapy is not going to be about taking it out on you--that won't do anyone any good.
TSH, I know this is going to sound like a newspaper advice column response (so I'm apologizing now), but could you go to therapy even if he won't? I think you are going to need to do something positive for yourself (even if it’s not therapy) if he decides to handle this on his own.
I'm wishing the absolute best for you, TSH. You're doing so well. Sorry if this post didn't help, but at least I can give you a virtual hug.