I think it is also about 'excitement.' I grew up in a 'fairly stable' home, but certainly not "The Cleavers", lol Upper middle class, country club, the whole bit and I can still remember how I thought it was all SO BORING!!!!!
The 'bad boys' and the 'rougher crowd' were exciting, doing 'forbidden things.' Now I can tell you that wasn't what I thought then, I only know that today because of the work I have done all these years on me. It was almost like a MAGNET.
It took me a LONG TIME to outgrow that, into recovery for a bit before I started to understand it. My sister, who is 11 years younger than me, seemed to come out of it by the time she was 17 or so, rofl Either I am a 'slow learner' or just a lot more 'stubborn' lmao.
There is hope. Honest.
Love and hugs,