(((DeVon)))
I'm sorry you can't have Raven cremated, but I'm so glad you were able to give her all the love she deserves while she's alive.
It's sad that your oldest AD is still so wrapped up in herself. Unfortunately, I was the same way when I was using. That's part of the reason I am so devoted to my cats now. I can't change the past, but I can certainly make sure I don't repeat it.
Hugs and prayers!
Amy