Hi alone & confused,
If you knew my son, he is the most handsome, gentle & caring young man when he is sober. He has the biggest heart also, and like your mother he has a problem. I know one thing, after living with my husband, I could not live with my son when he does these things. Just seeing him the other day, so skeletal, I sobbed my heart out, in front of him which I did not want to do, but it just happened. Who knows what the answer is, I sure as heck don't. Like everyone here has been wishing me, I wish you all the success in the world. P.s. my mother died when I was 16, so it means even more to me that your mother gets healthy, because I know how it is to live without one. Best of luck.