TSH - sure sounds OK - good actually.
I had a past life in Alanon (adult children stuff but went to lots of meeting that were not just adult child meetings). I found it really different than AA mainly because it really did support the idea of "take what you like and leave the rest".. Some of the people were really "work the steps" people but others were really "leaving" a lot of what they did not like from 12-step and taking the support and commonality.
You and your husband sound like you are on this journey together. It sure sounds good - not easy but good.