The posting may seem harsh to you, but you see the people here have lost their homes, lost their children, lost their source of income and perhaps their life savings. That have been lied to and stolen from and left worrying all night long, wondering if their addict is dead or alive. And too often, the addict is dead. They have been raising their grandchildren, and trying to keep some kind of peace in the lives of these children, and they have sat by when their addict overdosed, and had to make decisions whether to leave them on life support or finally disconnect.
It's not that we don't have compassion for the addict, we do. But this forum is about getting past all of that and saving our own lives while we can. And if it doesn't "read well" to some who read here, then perhaps they should stick to what works for them.
This forum is about our healing. It's about us getting past being "stuck" in our codependency. It's about learning to live again when most of us have been close to death.
We apologize to no one for our recovery and whatever it takes for us to begin healing and reclaiming our lives. We no longer need permission to take steps to keep well.
Again, I am just telling it like it is here and anyone who feels offense reading here, may want to choose more wisely what they read.
Respectful Hugs