How & why is ur silence hurtful to a
ADDICT??? I don't get ur meaning there.
you are a single parent & by all I read have been one for sometime now.
The addict in ur life parents core heaters & attends to the automotively impaired & ur feeling Guilt! I don't understand why ur not feeling empowered & in control of ur life.
I feel fine & I have used silence & distance & the steps to get me here today. I used strategy not DOPE OR BOOZE to manage day by day minute by minute to get me to healing.
everyone is different heres my angle:
I spent about 5 mins on the pity pot ouch! my ass was to big to stay on it & I deserved to be up on my fet not on my ass pulling my hair & mumbling. what was I losing by kicking Crack man to the curb? Drama pain prolonged stress & pain, when I saw three gray hairs OH LORD NO!.
God blessed ur addict with u cause he would have been wearing that damn heater!wedged between his cheek & gums!.
look circles go round & round & while u beat urself up u didn't see the growth & fact that HP was working ur recovery. YOU HAVE GROWN & HE HASN"T!
YOU saw him & the whole situation Clearly & he is where he was when u were screaming sweating & pushing a life into this world.
This is what Gold would do:
Make sure ALL pertinet bills documents are in place & in UR NAME.
If u had a court order for support; he is in violation, its time to notify court that he hasn't been paying.
Change any & all locks & If he has anything in ur house pack it up & ship it to him.
he should have to make an appointment to see kids. I would set such boundaries he would think I was fort knoxx.
Thats my slant do what u feel is best for u!
we are having a party over at Naranon on thursday
ADDICT FREE Thursdays ur welcome to come over & post bring a dish, dirty jokes, half naked men in thongs& soft porn(oops scratch porn Jon will be in a snit!)
Gurl get rid of all that SELF INFLICTED Guilt!
Its about You & Your kids & the rest of ur life .
Gold is doing the electric slide