Hello bobbarker, and pleased to "meet" you
Welcome to SoberRecovery. I'm sorry to hear that your father's drinking is causing you and your family so much trouble. My father used to drink too, so I know a little of what you are talking about.
My first suggestion is that you learn all you can about alcoholism. You can start right here by reading the "sticky" posts at the top of this forum, and over in this other forum
Friends and Family of Alcoholics - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
There's a lot of material there, too much to read in just one day. So while you're going thru it, check out this other website
How to find a meeting in the US/Canada/Puerto Rico
and see if you can find a meeting that is convenient to you. They have tons of great books and literature, and real live people that can answer your questions from their own experience. After you have found a meeting, or two, that you are comfortable with you might want to see if your mother would go to one with you. It sounds like she could use a little help too.
welcome again, I'm glad you found us.
Mike