I am a new member of Al-anon, I have been going to meetings for about one month now. I started going to meetings because I was in so much pain and had reached a breaking point. When I first went to a meeting I was not ready to admit I had a problem, that my life was a mess. I thought it was all my A's problem. Since I have been going to meetings and posting in this forum, I feel 100% better. I am not sure why but I feel a remendous weight has been lifted from my shoulders. I don't have to do it on my own anymore. Also, hearing elements of my story from other people has been very healing for me. I feel less like a terible creature when I hear others share. Perhaps this forum or an online meeting might be easier for your wife to attend. I hope she finds her way here, because it has helped me tremendously. Good for you that you are on your way back. I wish you both luck and hope.