I'm dealing with my HBF in jail. The days gets easier and easier. I told him no collect calls. Just letters at this point. I have read on another post to get what you have to say out and then keep your letters about how your days are going. The good. Talk about your job, driving, etc. Just the small things and keep the letters about yourself. I have been trying so hard but at the same time, he is in a better place with a clearer mind to hear how I was affected by all his crap. It's a release for me. He can also take what he wants and leave the rest as I can too.
I just still struggle with staying with him. I haven't heard anything about sentencing and it's making me nervous. I have to keep telling myself that he is in jail and not going anywhere-even after sentencing- so why worry. It's just hard.