I just have to say that since I "let go and let God" the difference has been tremendous.
I told him I wanted a divorce and got it in a matter of months. I don't threaten unless I mean it. I told him he could stay at the house as long as he didn't drink. We all know how long that lasted. He finally ended up going to stay with his Dad 5 hours away which is a Godsend for me and the kids. We actually can relax for a little. Don't get me wrong, this has been really tough financially and emotionally but we are making it one day at a time.I have never been able to keep alcohol in the house, either. I ocassionally like a drink. One thing I did was go buy a six pack of good German beer. Sunday afternoon I even had one in the back yard sitting in the lawn chair enjoying the beautiful weather and thanking God for a little serenity. I wish him all the best and hope he can actually do it this time with someone else's help because I took care of him for 24 years and it didn't work.
Who knows, someday our paths may meet again but for today I am okay.