Forgiveness of others and our healing has to come from within.
You've already seen red flags.
You're going to open up a whole can of worms, and possibly a nightmare you never imagined if you pursue this any further, especially if you give him your phone number.
My EXAH did horrible things to me, and never once did I get any sort of amends. He was buried at the age of 47 in May 0f 2007 from complications due to AIDS.
I did not need amends from him to find forgiveness within myself and move on with my life.