Do they ever "come around"?
several of the posts on here make references to the alcoholic "coming around". i can't help but translate that into "he'll change".
do they really ever change?
it is a very nice thought, but i surely do not need to start getting my hopes up again, for the umpteenth time. i have hung on to this relationship for five years HOPING he would "come around" if i would just work on me and work my Al-Anon program. I have done that - set my boundaries, detached with love, let go a thousand times, attended meetings, etc. i have changed and i like who i am now. my mirror shows me a much nicer person than it did five years ago.
my alcoholic husband has been sober for 14 years, but in my opinion he hasn't recovered emotionally - just physically. he just simply doesn't drink any more. but he isolates and neglects me, his family and his job, and gets more self-absorbed every day.
finally, i have let go; just today i put a deposit on a place to move into. and just today i noticed some of ya'll are still hoping.
ya'll tell me the truth now -- what are the odds?