Hmmm... interesting suggestion. I think I need a little more convincing, however. For one, my husband has not yet decided to quit drinking. This means I feel there is nothing for me to support him for. The only change he is really making is understanding that I am going to do my own thing. I think if he attempts to quit, then I may have to be more by his side. For two, he has essentially cut every friend and family member out of my life because he doesn't like them or want me hanging out with them. I suspect this is his way of trying to control me and make sure I don't leave him. I think he fears people will tell me they don't like him or that I will have other friends and leave. Now I have no friends outside of him and I am just now starting to make friends in Colorado. So far this guy friend is my only friend. I hate to not have him as a friend because then I am sitting home wtih my husband while he drinks.