I was right there with you, in your post, when you were waiting while he looked frantically and my thoughts were the same as yours..."Here we go again.."
It took a long time to lose our trust, and will take a long time to gain it back.
I used to tell my son, "I love you and trust you, I just don't trust your disease." He understood that.
Wise woman, you are, to continue to protect yourself and your valuables. Getting blindsided at this stage of the game really smarts. It's about taking care of us, no matter how well they are or are not doing.
Hugs