Linda...
Welcome to the forum.
My Dad was the world's sweetest drunk, and the most violent thing my addict ever did was kick the fan. I don't have any experience with a violent addict, but my heart says you need to pack more than an overnight bag. If the violence has been escalating, you have every reason to fear that it could keep escalating. Until he's made a commitment to sobriety... you need to be away from him.
Contact a spouse abuse center, I think
they will confirm that these are warning signs of great danger.
I'm glad you're going to go to an al-anon group. But please... put your safety above everything else. Not in spite of the fact that you love him. BECAUSE you love him.
Please stay with us and keep posting. We want to know whats up with you.
SAFETY FIRST!
Smoke
[This message has been edited by smoke gets in my eyes (edited August 21, 2001).]