hello colleen, and I am afraid that tough love is the only way to go IMHO I know this as I am a 40 year old alcoholic with 4 and a half years sober the ONLY person who can help your brother is himself, however on a side note I do know that in a lot of small towns it is mostly older people try suggesting NA they are almost as easy access as AA and Alcohol is a drug, I pray for your brother and all like em every nite it took me 5 years to get sober and that was AFTER I finally admitted i had a problem GOOD LUCK JD