Colleen,
Welcome. Please encourage your brother to go back to those AA meetings. Counter his reasoning with... "those old guys can help you get to be their age." He needs a sponser and a network.
Is there any way to get him to access this site? There are plenty of addicts here that are his age and younger. You could also tell him to go to the online forums at
www.essence-of-recovery.com
He needs the support of other recovering addicts. Though we try, there is no way that you or I can understand exactly what they are going through. I'm new to this recovery game... though not at all new to the addict game. The things I have been able to determine that you can actually DO, are these..
Help him find a place to get help.
Let him know that you love him and care about his recovery.
Set rules and follow them yourself.
Let go.
He has to do it. And you can't show him how. Perhaps you can help him find WHERE.
Please stay with us, and also visit the nar-anon forum. It will lend you strength.
Smoke