Diana As a general rule I don't talk to my man when he's drinking, because of just that! And he has learned to leave me alone, and I have learned to leave him alone. If Ive got something to say I usually wait until the next day, granet I don't do this for him, but for myself, and geting all bent out of shape because of what he says while drunk is not my idea of fun. However my previous hosband would go through the roof! He demanded I attend to his every need when he was drinking, abusive, his threats were verbal, violent, and occationally life threating. Good luck finding a group!!!!