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Old 01-21-2002, 04:42 PM
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sssalas
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Join Date: Nov 2001
Location: Santa Fe,NM.USA
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Diana, Im giving you a speel on domestic violence and control, OK. Some guys are all bark and no bite, while others bark and bite, thats the type Im refuring to.In my experiece control is one of the major factors associated with domestic violence. Alot of guys like to be "Mr. Macho" and its understandable, but remember to a degree, and to a point. Also about isolation; is that an abusive guy will tend to isolate you from your friends and family, and will also even try and turn you against them. The reason is so that when you are abused you won't have any emoyional support, and are more likely to stay in that kind of situation, vunerable and with no place to go. If he is causeing problems for you now and your just boyfriend and girlfriend, it could easily get alot worse if you were to either get married or have a child (have you heard that they get jelous of the baby, and most abusers attack they're woman when she is pregnant) Abusive guys all vary in the degree of their abuseness, and its hard to determine before hand if one is cappable of taking your life, but Ill tell ya, its really not worth finding out. Sadly my main reason for staying in a violent situation out side of being trapped, was an extreemly low self esteem!! Its horrible because when your in it you can't see the forest for the trees. So ask your self first of all dose he bite? And then is this the kind of enviroment you would like to raise children in? If this guy turns out to be a stalker can you move somewhere where he won't find you? Hey, Ive babbled long enough!!!! Good Luck !!!!!
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