One of my very best friends went through detox with the same reactions. The detox here would not let anyone in to visit for the first week just for that reason. He made it through just fine and was sober and healthy for the next 18 years of his life. (He passed away last year from something else.) He was always such a help with my A. I miss him a lot especially now that I made the choice to divorce. I have 3 teens myself and sometimes the economics of the situation are overwhelming, but when I made the decision to cut loose I realized I had to prepare to hit rock bottom also. I attend alanon meetings and this forum is so wonderful. Just know that you are not alone and this could be the beginning of the rest of your life. Just know that the doctors and the HP will take care of things as they are meant to be. You have not lost him yet and this could be a good thing. Please keep posting and let us know how things turn out. Cheryl