frame 31,
if I remember correctly the "Big Book" mentions " our liquor was but a symptom. We had to get down to causes and conditions".
There is a lot of difference between just not drinking, or using, and changing the way we are as people....I know folks who have been sober decades and they are some of the most miserable people I have ever run across! Note though, most of them are not that way. Most are really WORKING a program. We change who we were into who we are as we journey through recovery. If she is not drinking or using and claiming to be in recovery(?), then she has not progressed much at all. It's about how we change inside...the outside, for all intents and purposes, is irrelevant. Actions not words! Do not be deceived by what you may want to see.....There is pain and trouble in her. She has a long way to go, it's her journey not yours. Move on, live your life, free from the burden of someone who appears unable or unwilling to change.
