Lady,
How long have you been married? For 17 years? Was he drinking when you married or did he start shortly thereafter (the three years)? Has he, for the past 17 years, been drinking?
I feel kind of helpless. It seems like I don't really know your situation. But, it seems like it might really take him a while for him to get used to you going to Al-Anon.
I have been married for 15 years so our situations seem very similar. He has been drinking the entire time. I have just gotten tired of it.
I really want to work on my marriage but I can't make him stop. I will have to decide if I can live with his drinking.
I feel that my vows are for a lifetime, but how much do I suffer. I really think my husband is a wonderful man. I am luckily to have him. His drinking is getting to be too much.
Back to you! What do hope to gain by telling
him how you feel about his drinking?
Do you think you will blindside him?