Originally Posted by
CatsPajamas 
It took me awhile to really understand that just as I can't control the addict I can't control the other people in our lives who are also directly affected by the disease.
This statement really hit home for me today. My mother called this morning, pitching a fit because my oldest AD had called to hit her up for her birthday money already (it's not until the 26th of this month), and I had to bite my tongue.
She has the option to say no, but is still stuck in that dysfunctional behavior of enabling and griping about it all in the same breath.
I have to imagine putting her in God's loving hands and just leave it alone.