It took me awhile to really understand that just as I can't control the addict I can't control the other people in our lives who are also directly affected by the disease. When I was new to recovery, I bought lots of copies of Courage to Change and gave them out like candy - wanting everyone I knew to find the "solution" as I had. I was very sad and hurt when they put the book on a shelf...
Then my sponsor gently reminded me of one of the principles of recovery - attraction rather than promotion. I was powerless over all of my loved ones. The best I could do was work my own program of recovery and perhaps they would see the way it worked in my own life.
Big hugs to you, Amy. Imagine wrapping all of your loved ones up in a blanket and handing them over to God.
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