((((((Amy))))))
I think your gut is speaking to you loud and clear...
If nothing changes, nothing changes...KWIM
It sounds like you are the only one that is not in denial... you see the writing on the wall and know that the other shoe will drop soon.. I was like your dad at one time, I knew there was a problem but I just tip toed around it... I allowed my AH to manipulate me into enabling him for many many months..
I have to agree with Marle... is there anyway that you can get to alanon or naranon, even if it is just once a week.. maybe there is a way that you could get your dad to attend one as well.
Hang in there Amy....