thanks, pernell. my husband says i have a black belt in al-anon. i started a new meeting in our neighborhood about a year ago and was a GR for the first few months.
actually, it was al-anon that helped me to realize it was okay for me to ask for what i needed from the relationship, and that's what broke us up (according to jim). i got too demanding.
he couldn't be so self-absorbed any more if we weren't BOTH concentrating on HIS needs. when i let go of my co-dependence and started to focus on my own "stuff", he decided he didn't need a wife after all.
as i said, i'll take responsibility for my half of the deal. i stood up and asked for attention- sometimes i demanded it. i wasn't a very nice person. but the other half of it is his. he just flat WON'T give me the attention and time he KNOWS i need.
so we are at a standoff.
anyway... you are in new jersey... how do you know this law firm in houston? and are you serious about them having a job opening?