That's such a good question Stillwater. He can be very tender, understanding and helpful. He can also be the polar-opposite. It just depends.
He's scared right now. I expect he would be open and supportive when I talk to him. (hey...maybe I'm starting to understand manipulation...)
I've been reading alot of posts and I see so much of my life in so many of them. Things that I didn't connect with the A. Things I thought were marital problems that seem to be so common here.
He wants to try again. He aknowledges that alcohol is a problem, and that he doesn't handle stressful situations well. He considers the main issues his stress and our relationship.
I don't know if he would understand if I tried to explain codependence (in the sadly limited understanding that I have of it.)
SR is helping the light turn on for me.
I wonder if there is any value in trying to get him to log on to SR?