Does My Husband Have A Problem?
Hi Everyone-
I'm so glad that I found this forum! Any advice you can give would be really appreciated.
I feel like my husband might have a drinking problem but sometimes I feel like could be overracting. I have started to keep a journal to record have often he drinks or gets drunk because he claims its only "1 or 2 nights a week" but its usually more.
My husband doesn't seem to "have" to drink. I think he likes to drink and just choosing not to even though it really, really bothers me. He doesn't wake up and drink. He doesnt drink every day but when he does drink he almost always gets drunk (not ALWAYS but I would say more often than not)
We work opposite hours so a lot of times when he comes home from work (2-3am) he will drink alone. Other times its during the week with friends or after work with co-workers. It bothers me a lot which I have expressed to him many, many times. I guess it bothers me not that he is drinking but its so excessive. For instance, if he had some friends over to watch the game during the weeks you would normally think that people would watch the game until 11-12 and then leave. Well, my husband will stay up most of the time until 4-5am drinking.
Here is the most recent list of his drinking that I have been keeping track of. I didnt include conversations the next day which normally include fighting or him apologizing for his behavior:
12/17: Drank Alone. Drank an entire bottle of wine by hisself at around 3-5am. And put his cigarettes out in our nice new wine glasses.
12/18: Did not drink
12/19: Went out after work (he works 4 nights a week from about 6pm-3am) and came hoome at 5am drunk.
12/20: Went out after work and called me at 5:30am to tell me his was at a friends and was too drunk to drive.
12/21: Did not drink
12/22: Had friends over for a football party got drunk and came to bed at 4:30 and woke me up (I had to work in the morning). I asked him 5 times to leave the room because he was snoring and I couldnt sleep. He stared yelling at me and telling me I was a bitch. He grabbed my arm and told me he hated me and hoped I died in my sleep. I had to go to the other room and sleep on the floor (but obviously couldnt)
12/23: Did not drink
12/24: Drank alone. Got drunk, took Ambien and smoked cigarettes in our house.
12/25: Did not drink.
12/26: Did not drink
12/27: Drank alone. Had two HUGE glasses of rum and coke (I am pretty sure he was drunk).
12/28: Did not drink
12/29: Did not drink
12/30: Got very drunk and was up until 5am.