Originally Posted by
BumblingAlong 
but what could they possibly get from saying "I love you" when they so obviously don't. I still can't wrap my head around it...
because they "do" love you
that's what love "means" to them, it's what they learned
Just by the way, like LTD said earlier, it's just not that important, the important thing is I say to myself, "Ok, this person is toxic"
The what's, why's blah blah blah's are absolutely unimportant, what's important for me is "what do I do to take care of myself"
My best friend told me that trying to understand "her"....well what he said was "Andrew, trying to make sense of it all....hmmmm.......well....Shakespeare said it best in King Lear, On that path lies madness"
trying to understand a crazy person will make you insane...literally. Trying to make sense of "what they do" or trying to get them to "see me" or "see my point of view" made me insane.
that's my experience.