So, why DO alcoholics "double bind" - tell you they love you and then cheat on you (by the way - that's exactly what my XAB did a few months ago). I'm still trying to sort it out, and I've wondered if he's got a personality disorder. I haven't heard anything from him since early November - not even a Christmas greeting. In the past, I've always been the one to maintain contact, but not this time. I wonder what he's thinking about the fact that I've failed to reach out to him this time....