not much i can add to what others have said.....you have thought it out, made the decision, and found an apt. from here on out, you are your own woman.
i understand exactly why you feel the need to discuss it with him......old habits like givelove said. i always felt like i should keep xah informed but it was so futile....can't reason with the unreasonable. it was always like trying to talk with a tantruming child trying to get their own way.
good for you, tiredlady. pretty soon, you'll have to change your name to "superlady"
hugs to you and just keep marching forward.