It does take time and work to undo old behaviors and attitudes. I too would stress over everything.
I think a combination of getting older, and working on those behaviors/attitudes have finally gotten me to a point that 99% of the crap in my life isn't worth taking up space in my head.
Things will work out the way they are supposed to, I sure can't please everyone all the time, and my primary focus today is on
me and my recovery.
:ghug :ghug