Originally Posted by
YaySartre 
Not all alcoholics are bad apples that lack character. A lot of us just don't know how to cope with pain, discomfort or a lack of reciprocity in relationships.
I agree with everything YaySartre said, especially the part I quoted above. I'm also coming out of a relationship that was frequently peppered with infidelity on his part, not mine. (I'm the alcoholic, not him.) In my situation, neither one of us was blameless yet neither one of us was soley responsible for the split, either.
To answer your question directly, infidelity is most certainly NOT ok with this alcoholic. I've never strayed in any relationship. Not even close. I think that both drinking and infidelity can be ways that one "copes" or, more accurately, doesn't cope with life... but I don't think that alcoholics are anymore likely to cheat than normal drinkers.
Take care of yourself -- I know how gut-wrenching it can be.
