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Mr B I suspect only another codie would understand just how deeply wrong that kind of thinking feels for me and yet, at the same time, strangely liberating. I think it comes back to the idea of letting other people take responsibility for their own feelings but arrived at in a roundabout, applied way. I think it's the right thing to do but, boy, does it feel uncomfortable at times...
I completely understand that, and the avoidance of that discomfort kept me in people-pleasing mode, and spinning my wheels as far as making any progress in addressing my codependency issues!