thanks to all- I know I am not beneath him- and God help me- I am trying to get past my low self esteem and not let it bug me-His mother (who I care deeply for) is trying to get him to leave me. Yes- that should make me alot madder than it does- but I know in her own (very controlling) way, she is trying to protect her granddaughter. What bothers me is that when all this is going on - his mom is always afaid he might be "mad" at her- they have been through h*ll with him for longer than me- yet they still control,enable- I know they do it out of love- but gee!!
Thanks for all the input- it is wonderful to have this place to come and (quack) talk!!!
maryann