AA helps for sure, i used to go to NA couple of years ago and i was clean for a long time, u get to see a lot of people with similar problems but with different points of view, that really called my attention and helped me a lot. Recently i ended a 6 years relationship and it has affected me big time, i'll go back to NA on wednesday. My family has always tried to be close to me, but for some reason I can't, today I live far away from home in another country.
One thing i will tell u is that never let the relationship be the centre of ur life, whatever u do make sure that it will make u happy and better. Look inside and find out what u want for your future, what u really want, and even if u feel down, u gotta stand up and keep fighting. Life is tough and we can't change that, but we still gotta go through it, even if it hurts.