My Afather never really yelled at me but I have big issues with being yelled at and can't explain it to my husband. Everytime he raised(es) his voice I go into an incredible panic. About two years ago my birthmother clued me in. Her mother (we lived with her family) and her brother would get into drunken screaming matches and were often physical and she said I saw it all (I was adopted out when I was 2.5). That is the reason she gave me up. I rarely yell, and I panic when being yelled at. Boot camp was miserable for me.