Enablers are wrong, and their kind of "nice" shields our loved ones from consequences which is dangerous. Some enablers will stop if they are presented with education about the disease, but the enablers who continue on despite the education are co-conspirators in addiction. Being a mother, i am a she-bear when it comes to people/situations that put my children in danger (even my adult children). So i find a way to communicate to enablers, co-conspirators or not, my stance about their behavior. The trick is to do it in a way that does not create drama which will thereby give them an excuse to continue the enabling (because i'm so mean, etc.). One of the best ways i've found so far is to have the same no-contact with them that I do with my addicted loved one.