Update
Well I still haven't heard from my son after sending him that letter, but my mom did. In the letter he wrote her he seems to have accepted that he is not going to get any help and he doesn't seem angry with me. Not that it would matter to me if he was. So today I bought him a very nice Christmas card and boy is it impossible to find a card to son that doesn't say how happy you are to have him for a son or how proud you are of them. I had to settle for a card that was about caring & concern & that sometimes you cannot be truly joyful cuz of circumstances etc. It said how much I would be thinking of him at Christmas, & I certainly will be doing that. I mailed him a money order for $130, $100 from me for Christmas ( for the tv ) and $30 from my mom for commissary. I wrote inside it and mailed it. according to my mom's letter he has accepted that he must stay there till Dec 25th, 2009.