Well, I'm not you and I was exhausted just reading through your post!
It sucked so much energy out of me, and took so much away from me when I continued to engage with the EXAH, no matter what the mode of contact.
I'd be in a tailspin for days when I answered that phone.
My oldest AD called me Monday night in full-blown crisis mode (which isn't unusual given her poor choices in life), and I am in the middle of the biggest week of this semester in college.
I simply told her it was not a good time as I was in the midst of college work, perhaps next week would be better, hung up, and turned it all over to God.