Hi Rozied, You have some great posts here hon but something you said really hit home with me.. You said "You wanted your son back"~~~and thats what I have said for a long time here. The truth is ~when I stepped away ~ Chris started to get it together. He knows I will do nothing to help him for a very long time. I will buy him socks (LOL)))) and do small things but not the codependant stuff at all.....I love my son more than life and only want him safe and healthy. YOU can only decide whats good for you at this point but I wanted to let you know I know exactly how you feel. It's so hard to step away but its the best thing for both parties. Lots of love and mom hugs coming your way, Bonnie