You know I really do appreciate everyones input. I do have to take issue though with Sojourner's comment about my son's name. I call him Joe alot but he prefers Joey. I cannot see how what he is called has anything to do with anything.
He is spoiled because of my mothers interference which Thank God has finally stopped. I was always tough on my son when he was growing up and it wasn't until we moved near my parents that he started getting whatever he asked for. He was 14 at the time.