Hi there (((((Rozied)))))
Before i even scrolled down to the replies, what i thought immediately as I read what your son wants, is just what Freedom said..."No is a complete sentence." I think you have a similar feeling, since you said even the first time around he didn't deserve the $$$ for an attorney.
I think your son needs to loose his sense of entitlement before he is ready to hear anything. That's hard to do when each time he asks, someone gives. You've been doing so well...I know it is hard, but keep doing the next right thing for you. Hugs